Okay. Before I give you this little nugget of wisdom… Can we talk about these pants for a second? They’re so comfy. And ridiculous. And I love them. They’re from Free People. Shocker, right? lol
I was having a conversation with someone the other day about insecurity. Which led to our discovery of the irony about insecurity.
Here’s the thing. Guys love confident girls. It’s just a fact of life. And with the world we live in, being truly confident in yourself is some tough business. It really shouldn’t be being that we’re f*cking amazing. But everywhere we turn society is telling us we aren’t good enough. Which leads to some severe insecurity.
And you know what guys don’t find attractive? Insecurity.
So let me lay out this vicious cycle for you.
You’re a confident young woman. You meet a young man worthy enough of your time and you enter into a relationship. After an undetermined amount of time you start to grow stronger and stronger feelings for this person.
Well, the stronger your feelings get, the more the thought of losing them hurts.
Here and there you start to worry about things that you feel threaten your relationship. Whether it’s his untimely responses, or the couple of pounds of love chub you’ve put on, or even the fact that your schedules have gotten a tad busier and you don’t see each other as often.
Finally, this causes you to become suspicious, or jealous, or clingy. Which let’s be real, can drive a man away real fast.
So basically, you become insecure about losing someone, which causes you to act insecure, which drives people away, and in the end, you lose them from worrying about losing them.
THAT’S the irony about insecurity.
You ultimately cause what you are most insecure about by focusing on those insecurities.
Insecurity is that little voice in the back of your head that makes you feel shitty, lost, hopeless, as though you’re not good enough.
You have to be confident in yourself. And realize that someone who doesn’t want to be with you isn’t someone you should want to be with anyway.
That’s exactly how you keep yourself from driving yourself crazy in a relationship. Enjoy your time with your person, but don’t place the stake of your happiness on them.
Does heartbreak suck? OBVIOUSLY. Who WANTS to be heartbroken? Nobody I know.
But you will ultimately be fine.
Therefore, don’t ruin a good thing by worrying about your good thing being ruined.
Alright, I hope you’re all having an amazing week. There’s potential for a meet-up in the works.